Go Create You - How to Grow Personally
By Lorie Rosenberg
You may be happy and content right where you are. And hooray for you! But for others, you may be feeling stuck with no clear path or direction to move forward. Circumstances in your life may be challenging and difficult. You might have made some questionable choices that have severely impacted your life and set you back from the path you had intended. The goals and dreams you had aspired to now seem like distant memories.
Others of you may be quite successful in your profession and career, but for reasons you’re not quite sure of, you lost your enthusiasm about your job. It’s become mundane and routine and you dread stepping out of your door each day to trudge to work.
There are even those of you who truly enjoy your work, but lack close, personal relationships. You’ve spent so much time on your career that you sacrificed the people who cared about you the most. In addition, you didn’t pay attention to your physical health, and are now paying the price because of your neglect.
No matter where you are or what situations you’re dealing with, you have the capacity to change. You have the internal mechanisms within you to help you overcome your challenges and the courage to make positive changes that will move you forward in life.
Essentially, you have everything you need within you to be happy and self-fulfilled if you continue to strive for your goals and dreams, to realize what drives and motivates you to succeed, and to create action plans with specific steps that will move you in a path of continued growth and success.
If you desire to grow personally, it’s vital that you look at yourself objectively and evaluate the person you are now and the one you’re striving to become. To help you do this, I've provided the following questions you'll want to consider as you begin your journey of transformation:
How Do You Manage Life’s Challenges?
Today’s life is extremely complicated. You have to manage varying roles and responsibilities that can cause a lot of stress and aggravation. In addition, you may be dealing with relationship issues, family responsibilities, as well as managing your job or career. This can leave you overwhelmed and exhausted from being pushed in so many directions. And you never seem to have enough time to do the things that will bring you joy, peace, and harmony.
Despite all of these factors, when you adopt the right mindset, you’ll be able to handle these situations more effectively. You’ll be able to transform a difficult situation into a learning experience. It’s when we experience our most challenging moments that we make the most dramatic progress.
What Kind of Person Are You?
Think about the type of person you are within. Are you fixed in your current mindset and believe that you were born with your unique personality and “that’s just the way you are.” Or do you have a growth mindset where you’re willing to make positive changes in your beliefs and behaviors that will offer you new perspectives and help you to move forward in life.
When you have a fixed mindset, you can become so entrenched in your ideas and behaviors that you refuse to make any type of change that will enrich your life. On the other hand, when you’re willing to look at other perspectives and are open to new ideas from the people around you, you’ll be better equipped to take on the many opportunities that will come your way as a result of your open viewpoint.
How Does Your Behavior Reflect Your Personality?
The way you behave and the values that you aspire to say a lot about your prospects for growing personally and professionally. Are you kind and caring? Do you have a positive outlook on life? Are you grateful for your blessings, instead of continually feeling envious of others who seem to be smarter or are financially better off than you? Are you considerate of others, friendly, and helpful to those in need? Are you dependable and take your responsibilities seriously or do you take care of business “when the mood strikes you?”
The behaviors you portray in your everyday life say a lot about you as a person. People who are positive in their actions will attract the same type of energy back to them. When you are optimistic and open to new ideas and ways of thinking, you’ll find that opportunities open up to you and you’ll begin to see progress towards your best and highest self. When you develop healthy and productive habits, you demonstrate your commitment to following through on your goals and aspirations.
Do You Have a Purpose That Influences Your Actions?
Most successful companies have mission statements that guide the direction of their businesses. This enables them to determine the areas that they must focus on to achieve their objectives, and it helps to eliminate distractions that may take them off-mission.
It’s also a good idea to have a personal mission statement that guides the direction of your life. It can help you determine where you want to spend your time and what you want to be working on personally and professionally.
A mission statement can be a couple of sentences or several pages long. The important part of your mission or vision statement is that it reflects how you want to live your life, how you want to spend your time, and how you will contribute at home, in your work, and with your community.
Are You Managing Your Fear of Failure?
Most of us have some type of fear that holds us back from achieving real results. Performance anxiety is very common and as a result, many people don’t ever get out of their comfort zone to try something new or take on a new venture. They’re okay where they are because they are afraid of failing. The problem with that type of thinking is that it discourages people from making strides personally and professionally.
Actually failure can be a better teacher than success. It shows us what we shouldn’t be doing and gives us a clearer path to what we need to be doing. Many very successful people have failed numerous times before they succeeded in their life’s mission. That doesn’t mean that you want to take on unnecessary risks. What it does mean is that it’s vital to push the envelope and take on new challenges that will give you the skills and confidence you need to move towards your goals.
Do You Have Healthy Relationships?
Relationships are your most valuable asset. They are what nourish you on a daily basis. When your relationships are stressful, it can be very difficult to create an environment of continuing improvement and growth. Your most important relationships include your family and friends; supervisors, co-workers, and colleagues; and your religious and spiritual connections.
When you take an inventory of your relationships, determine those that support you and add value to your life. Some of your relationships may actually be damaging your self-esteem and draining your positive energy. If so, you need to determine if you can wean them out of your life or minimize your exposure to them.
You can’t get rid of your family, but you can determine how you let them affect you and your spirit. If your boss or supervisor is undermining your position and making it difficult for you to do your job effectively, then maybe it’s time to move on, transfer to another position within the company, or present your issues to your boss and see if you can come to some mutually beneficial working relationship.
Your religious or spiritual relationship can be an important way to look within yourself and understand the love that lies within. It’s a way to tap into your inner source of strength to tackle life’s most difficult challenges. Also, the personal relationships you develop at your church or worship center can be very helpful to you, especially in times of need.
Are You Financially Stable?
When money is a constant issue in your life, then that problem will overshadow anything you’re trying to accomplish. Plus, you’ll be working from a scarcity mentality, rather than from an abundance mentality. It’s critically important to manage your finances properly and live below your means rather than striving for a bigger house or that next "toy" you’ve always wanted.
If one of your goals is to become wealthy, living above your income won’t get you there. It’s actually a good idea to put aside a minimum of at least three to six months of expenses as an emergency fund, just in case you happen to get laid off or become ill and can’t work. Plus, it’s never too early to start saving for your children’s college education and even for retirement. Take it from experience, life flies by and you’ll be there before you know it.
Are You Directing the Path of Your Life?
When you think about creating yourself, you may be saying to yourself, "I just don’t have time for that. I’ll get to that when the children get older, when I’m less stressed or when my life is easier." The problem is that there will never be a “right” time. When you fail to create your own life, you’ll end up living someone else’s. And I don't think you want to do that! You’ll never discover your unique talents and feel the incredible sensation of success when you accomplish your goals.
That’s why right now, this moment, is exactly the right time to get started. As they say, it’s never too late to have a happy childhood!
Do You Keep Life in Perspective?
If you’re not growing, then you’re becoming stagnant. Eventually your soul will wither and you’ll never realize your true potential.
We all bring with us baggage from the past that affects how we approach our current life. It’s important to recognize how this baggage is affecting us, probably without our even knowing it. We may need to temper our reaction to circumstances at times because our judgment is being clouded by our past experiences. Keep things in perspective and realize it may not be as bad as you think. This situation is just a very tiny fraction of our total existence and probably will mean nothing in a few days, weeks or years. So let go of the past and begin making new experiences that will model your future.
How Are You Growing Personally?
You may want to change an unhealthy habit that’s negatively affecting your life. You may be striving to develop a business, focus on a passion you’ve wanted to cultivate, or move in a new direction that offers you the promise of a better future. To do so, you need to understand yourself personally so that you can overcome any personal limitations or challenges that may be holding you back, develop positive and productive habits that will move you in the right direction, and discover the courage that lies within to bring about profound and meaningful change.
Whatever you want to do, it starts with the power of intention…making your desires known by your thoughts, words…and ideas. And then it’s taking that initial step in the direction of your vision…turning your future dream into today’s reality.
It’s Time to Go Create You!
No matter where you are, you have the potential for success. You have everything you need within you to reach your full potential…to live a life of significance and to fulfill your goals and dreams. There’s nothing that can hold you back if you know what it is you want to achieve, have a plan with specific steps to move you in the right direction, and the drive and motivation to see it through to completion. Isn't it time to Go Create You!